Unlock Your True Self: 23+ Questions For Self Discovery
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Deeply knowing yourself is the foundational first step for true personal growth. Knowing yourself helps to foster self-awareness, which is crucial for knowing how you operate and implementing the most effective strategies. Knowing yourself is what allows you to work towards your goals and dreams in integrity with who you are and what you truly want. If you happened to look around my website a little bit, you might've noticed a theme and desire that I have for my readers. That desire is to encourage readers to find creative solutions to help them over their personal obstacles. It’s something I’ve become very passionate about and truly believe is possible for anyone who has struggled with progress, growth, or success. Any area where standard or traditional methods have failed you, creative and personalized solutions can help you succeed.
My life has been a testament to this new perspective, just within the last year! With this new philosophy, I was finally able to work towards my lifelong dreams and have found effective strategies that helped me accomplish BIG goals. Goals like: going to the gym consistently, eating healthy, waking up early every day, building this blog, and so much more! Trust me, if you knew me and saw how I lived for the last decade you would understand how impactful this truly is!
But none of that success would’ve been possible if I didn't start by being honest with myself. Being honest and taking inventory of what motives, beliefs, desires, skills and shortcomings that make up who I am and how I operate in the world. I know this kind of inner work can be daunting or scary, so I’d like to offer a different perspective you can use. I want to encourage you to look at this through the lens of play. No judgement, no shame, no beating yourself up, no wishing you were this and wishing you weren’t that. We are simply holding space to move through these questions with honesty, curiosity, and openness to what the heart wants to reveal—nothing more. This is where we get to play detective. Full permission to pretend we are Emma Roberts in Nancy Drew, just like when we were kids. :*)
I find going through these questions to be the most effective when you are alone, in a private space, without a time frame. Simply being with self and looking inward to listen to the voices and nudges that are coming from your mind, body, heart and the Spirit. They are always speaking, we simply have to tune in.
I like having a journal with me to write down my answers and help me through the questions that are difficult for me to hear a specific answer on. If you encounter this, I suggest brain dumping all your thoughts on paper. Don’t think —just write the first thing that comes to your hand or mind. Oftentimes, I find that my answer is the first thing that I wrote down. Or after writing down everything in my mind onto paper, something will resonate with me more than the other things on the page when I read it over again.
Remember: Simply play detective with honesty and curiosity :)
23+ self reflection questions
What are your strengths?
What are your weaknesses?
— Answering this question may seem negative or counterproductive, but this is critical! We can’t explore solutions until we know what the problem is. This is an honest self-assessment without judgment or shame. We are just finding more opportunities for impactful growth!
What memories from your childhood still influence your decisions today? Do you like the impact they are having on your life?
If you took away your age and occupation, how would you identify yourself?
What characteristics, traits, values or titles do you want to be identified as?
What would you have to do or be to feel successful? What’s your definition of success?
What makes you lose track of time? What are you passionate about? What excites you?
When do you feel most authentically yourself?
What fear has held you back the most in life and why? How would you live differently if it didn’t hold you back?
2 minute free write: If you could click a button and become the person you’ve always wanted to be right now, who would you be? What would you be doing?
What are your giftings? What are traits or talents of yours that come naturally to you?
What beliefs do you hold that might be limiting your potential?
What patterns do you notice in your relationships with others?
What patterns do you notice in yourself?
When do you notice feeling triggered or reactive? What is the trigger?
What childhood dreams have you abandoned and why?
What are your non-negotiable values that you won't compromise on?
What would your ideal day look like if money wasn't a concern? Are there any other resources you would need to make that a reality?
What do you need to forgive yourself for?
What personal stories or narratives do you tell yourself that might not be true?
If you got to your deathbed, what would have had to happen during your lifetime for you to be able to say that you lived an impactful, fulfilling, and/or extraordinary life?
What are all of your wildest dreams?
What would you do if you weren't afraid to fail? What would your life look like? How would it feel?
Take your time while reflecting deeply on each question. Write down your answers and revisit them periodically over the year. Your responses may evolve with time, experience and more perspective.
To your continual growth and wellness,
Natalie
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